Monday, December 3, 2012
Another Birthday
Photographs are so funny - We can look at them a million times and find something new every time we look. I love this photo of you. It's priceless in so many ways. Snapped haphazardly by me on a beach outing, dad, you and I took in the early nineties. I don't remember that specific trip too much unfortunately..it's hard when you rely on memory - we took trips to the beach so often, and i wish so much i remembered more than i do. This was before you were sick. I still have that gray jacket you are wearing. The cuffs are tattered and holey, bleached with years of using it at my cleaning job. I still pull it on and wear it to keep me warm. The zipper is broke but it still it does its job. Even now... The car door open behind you belongs to the Caprice Classic we had that survived your lifetime of ownership and some of mine. That damn gold tank was a reliable S.O.B. Your thick beach coat is draped on the door, and the hint of gray sky in the corner tells me that the warm coat is essential. Your tussled hair and smile larger than life tells me it was a good day..perhaps perfect(?) beach outing - full of windy, cold weather and relief afterward from being higher up. Unfortunately i caught you at that nanosecond where you blinked. Blasted! I would have loved to have had the liveliness of your eyes captured, but that's ok. I haven't forgotten them..
If i didn't know you, what i would gauge from the photo would be that you were a happy, simple woman of little frills..someone of low maintenance that didn't mind her hair being mussed and a cloudy day to still smile truer than the sun. But, I DO know you..and that assessment still sits right.
I have photos later of you taken at the same beach. You are sick and bald and still smiling. It is perhaps not as wide but still as true.
Photographs really can capture a person's spirit/essence. Perhaps i wouldn't believe that if I didn't have this one as proof.
My father has called me over-sensitive before...he used that term in a time when he was trying to come up with my flaws. That's ok. I am. I am definitely over-sensitive. Perhaps Mom, you'd hate this photo of you? Well, I'm still glad i have it. And, if lingering in the details of a perfect day makes me super sensitive than so be it.
Happy Birthday Mom.
The details are not missed.
Wednesday, November 21, 2012
Having Gratitude
Monday, April 2, 2012
Well Versed
To run ones palm over the cloth or leather slowly like a lover's body, memorizing every attribute and flaw by sheer touch alone. To feel the weight of it, admire the craftsmanship and sustainability as unique as any person or snowflake.
Ah, to be let in to this beautiful binding. To dip inside the careful covers of a story. A Story. To touch the type as your eyes follow down the page - Tantalize your taste buds, traverse the landscape, tremor in the travels, but only (please) with well versed hands..
Wednesday, January 11, 2012
Cowardice
Friday, December 16, 2011
Challenger
Please hand me the key
To your world inside
We'll sidestep the monsters
Welcome truth to peruse
Kick dark fate down the staircase
What's left you'll use -
Challenger of a turbulent tide
Know you are stronger than that
Dark fiction of unscrupulous ways
Your base mind is an iron flat -
Challenger of a turbulent tide
Filling your pockets
A most watery ride
Brilliantly broken
The last page you pen alone...
Framing dusty, dark floorboards
A Room of Your Own.
Tuesday, December 13, 2011
Ghosting
Wednesday, November 30, 2011
Serial Dating
Wednesday, September 28, 2011
Appearances
You know the kind - the ones your mother drug you into when you were a kid and hated. She always said 'Stand up straight' and 'Don't touch!' As a kid you loathed them because 1) they never had kid stuff. 2) your Mom never bought anything interesting. 3) the sales person was always stuck up. Yeah, those stores. Now you look down and see bumps (when did those get there?) and realize you are an A-DOLT and can slouch and touch all the boring stuff you want to. Yay.
But because appearances can be deceiving, your wallflower meets Barney Fife look might just come in handy! when you walk into a posh furniture store say, and look like the priciest thing you've ever bought is a 2 for 1 X-Men T.v. Tray, you might suddenly find yourself hassle-free and walking through the suede and leather barcalounger sets like a ghost. You might find yourself wafting by $3,000 price tags like an invisible wind if you know how to look poor enough.
The same can be said in Car lots, although those poor bastards could badger an empty bag blowing through their overpriced lot. So, this one might be trickier. I would probably suggest going into full combat gear and blackening out a few teeth, forgetting your shirt (extra points for a woman) or say talking to yourself and waving your arms around violently. This should do the trick. If this by chance doesn't work, i would succumb to giving them the sale and thinking highly of them for sheer courage alone.
I realize even pesky sales people are people too. I've been there and was never good at it. But i don't think I'm alone when i say "Down boy!"
I think it's fair to say no one likes being pestered, pushed or followed into a dressing room. (If you do there is therapy for that). 'Overly attended to' is probably the most appropriate thing to say, but appropriate is overrated and so are appearances.
The truth is, i can afford to dress nicer and drive a better car. I just chose not to. I could afford to look like i want to be bothered, but I don't. You can breathe new life in the girl, but her lifestyle will remain.
For now, i enjoy being invisible and hassle-free. And the sick part of me will enjoy even more when i go to make that boring, expensive purchase for something i think i finally need, in my plain wall paper style, and look up to see the confused expression of the sales person as i purchase my overpriced item outright, no financing needed thank you.
Thursday, September 15, 2011
It Occurs to Me
Go in confidence and Peace. And always, thanks for reading -
Wednesday, August 31, 2011
What Can't Be Bought
And because the proprietor of such funds is not around to thank, one can feel an insurmountable guilt and host of emotions. The gamut of feelings from great to shit-faced. Only then does the real responsibility begin.
You can do what you want, but then what is that exactly? When it's never been an option before you might find that you've never taken the time to answer the question. This is as new of a proposition to you as a strategic, happy life behind a white picket fence with cloth diapers dangling from the clothes line.
I don't fucking know.
Or do I?
I will buy that bed I've needed for most of the year that won't hurt my back. I'll take care of business necessities and personal qualms but those aren't as important...they've waited this long.
The word 'Need' hits me with a sideswipe and all i can think of is what i would buy for you.
I'd buy you a top of the line, Versace brand gilt plated set of wings to wear. I'd beam at the purchase as you looked at me with a half smirk and said, "Amy, comfort..." soooo, I'd settle on silver and fleece. I'd point happily at the diamond studded pumps as you casually moved my pointer finger over to the more logical, leather-clad Birkenstocks of which i would relent. I'd pick out one in every color ( like you use to have).
In my exuberant frustration i would turn you around and say with persistent eyes, "Mom, you deserve the best." and you wouldn't miss a beat then as you smiled casually and stated, "I had it."
Oh, but that is only a foolish girl's need to believe! in lieu of knowing the truth. The Truth.
Mama didn't raise no fool.
Diamond pumps and gold plated wings aside, I really only want to buy time. With You.
I want your time. I'm able to pay $1,000 a minute. We have to make it quick Mom.
I grab for you like the last ice cream offered at a state fair on a 100 degree day. I would spend every precious second trying to be half of what you were to me. I'd simply hold onto you and be there. Holding and waiting. Remember .....? The time you came back from a Chemo appointment to find me curled up on your bed crying? There you were, depleted and wrung dry and somehow found the energy to sit down and crush me to your chest in the tightest hug as I selfishly cried. I'll never forget that feeling. How did you have that? That surge of force that shouldn't have existed and yet did. Because you loved me. You passed something to me then and there that I'd buy all the time in the world to repay if i could.
Courage got its definition from you. That is the truth i know for sure. That is the bet i will put money on every time.
So in that blindingly perfect moment of holding onto you again I would shut the hell up and instead tell you everything through wordless exchange. It would equate to the most beautiful sunset on the Oregon Coast times ten. I wouldn't trade it for anything ever.
Then, the last minute buzzer would sound and I'd pull away only to wipe my eyes, hold your hands and pull out my utter best. There's no need to say what you already know, so instead I'd take that momentous time to infuse you with sheer joy and laughter.
I'd make you laugh..... That was always my favorite thing. Whole heartedly, from the belly, tear stained eyes - yes, i would. I'd make you laugh harder than you ever had. The lines around your soft eyes would crinkle, your stomach would ache and you'd beg me to stop. The tears would be escaping your eyes as mine did as well. The moment would glisten in perfection. Life would be as wide as the universe.
I'd catch you then - in silver fleece wings and purple Birkenstocks smiling so hard your eyes were bursting with the bright sun. And you'd fade slowly - like an old black and white movie nearing the end...
I would turn, into the blinding sun your eyes left behind, rattling an empty lined pocket with a melancholy smile. Only then, only T h e n...would I be the richest person alive.
Monday, August 8, 2011
Dirty
Seek solace in flags of white
Rest a spell
Take up your hell
On another doom filled night
Revel in the rapture
Of simple peace
Plant an orchard
Leave It As You Found It
Or better if you strive -
Leave ones print on memory
Minimize need while alive
Leave it as you found it
It all coped without you
Damage not what isn't yours
Some things one can't undo
Leave it as you found it
Mother Earth isn't ours to keep
The trail you leave
Will lead to your kids
And haunt you in your sleep -
Leave it as you find it
Your good acts and voice will seed
And grow in others to carry them on
Your worth will only succeed.
Questionaire
Debonair debauchery
Friday, July 29, 2011
In memorandum
Thursday, July 21, 2011
Treasure Combing
I recall as a child helping pack up our enormous, gold Caprice Classic that took up most of the road. Even for just a day trip to the coast we’d over-pack. Several jackets, boots, bags, snacks and towels all found their way to the back seat. The Oregon Coast requires warm attire. No beach balls and lounging chairs for these elements. Mom and Dad always packed their signature Brown, heavy matching beach jackets lined with deep pockets and strong hoods. Dad came armed with Yellow tide table booklet to best gauge the waters whims. This water isn’t for the faint of heart, one good hit at high tide to a turned head and you could easily be carried away, or at the least, soaked and shaken. These trips were such a ritual; I took them for granted as often children do. Surely, all parents took their kids to the beach to comb the sand for treasures just waiting to be found.
All three of us hunted for different things. My goal was always the biggest agate. I’d announce every shiny find like I’d won the lottery. Dad found his joy with the hard to find Newport Blues with their dark camouflage – indistinguishable until held up to the light, sure enough though, the sunlight would cascade inside showing the mysterious stone’s truth; Beautiful Blue like the murky depths of the ocean itself. Mom enjoyed what I called the ‘odd’ rocks. Strangely shaped stones, shell fossils, funny patterned rocks. She often would boldly pass up an agate on the sand in favor of the heart shaped gray thing lying next to it.
So, with bags lining pockets, we’d all start combing the sand. Our covered heads bent against the wind, with slow footsteps inspecting the earth’s surprises. We took the sea’s throwaways with pasted, cold smiles as the wind unmercifully whipped by leaving running noses and squinted eyelids. We’d return home from a day of treasure combing and dump out our day’s find under water to better examine our captured beauty.
I miss those trips tremendously.
The Dictionary’s definition of Serenity is; “The state or quality of being Serene. Calm or tranquil.” I never realized at 12, that my serenity was on that beach, in those rainy, cold excursions. My Serenity was held in the faces of two other people who understood the thrill of these trips, as if we all held membership to a secret club no one else knew about.
I really thought when Mom died; my days of serenity were behind me. With such an important membership expired, surely Serenity was past. Then, one day many years later I opened a book with a new vision.
My partner at the time worked at a used book store when we met. She’d come home and tell me about the book scouts that would come in with boxes of books to sell. For many Scouts this was their only means of income, and what they’d walk away with depended on their book knowledge and luck of what they’d find. Scouts would frequent estate or yard sales and thrift stores, buy cheaply and sell to the stores for a profit. If Scouts had the knowledge and means to bypass the stores completely and sell on the internet, there waited a global market. My partner, Lori would joke that if she ever stopped working there, we should open up our own internet store. Then, one day she quit.
So, I was slowly introduced to the wide, mysterious world of book scouting. I learned how to scour rows of shelves and not get intimidated, how to take everything one book at a time. I had endless questions for a long time. I learned how to spot a Book Club book without even pulling it off the shelf. I learned about ‘blind stamps’, small press books, uncorrected proofs and the complete breakdown of the copyright page. I also learned that this is an imprecise skill. A book can have all tell-tale signs of having monetary value and turn out to be more common than you’d think. Signed or autographed does not equate to money. Limited edition does not always mean RARE. I was a dense, eager sponge soaking up everything I could hold. Our first scouting trip was tentative and cautious. We picked books modestly unsure of our own knowledge. In time we slowly gained confidence and took bigger risks. We always had a discard pile when we were done looking up our finds, but over time the pile got smaller. With experience, knowledge and time, we began to trust our decisions and found ourselves diving into the bookcases with full force.
“Listing Lingo” was another class at book-scouting school. Our first goal was to be able to accurately list our books with as much detail as possible. We wanted to be the bookstore that people could rely on with truth and accuracy - If there was underlining, how many pages? A page ripped? Where? Silver-fish nibbling? Soiling? Was this book a true First edition or a First Thus? What number printing? These were important things people should know. And we wanted to feel confident that what people thought they were getting, is what indeed they received. Words like Front-Free Endpaper, Octavo, Buckram, Gilt, Mylar became common descriptions. We watched the mass-listers coming onto the scene with their several hundred thousand book stock all with the exact same description. No variance. Words like ‘standard’ or ‘used’ replaced effort and time. Hand scanners have replaced knowledge and it’s easy to look and that and understand but it’s also just as easy to look at that and vehemently oppose it in lieu of giving a damn about what you do. Somehow, still these sellers sell. Quantity often replaces quality and that is the sad part of any business. I chose time and knowledge. For me, part of the joy of this job comes from every unique book reached for, absorbing something, touching its covers, and making an educated guess. If you take that away, then I might as well be working the register, scanning barcodes in and watching the clock. I delight in the fact that I use my brain and constantly learn something. Even in the failures I’m learning. Not to mention, that tons of valuable books are pre-ISBN that scanners won’t do any good for. How far will your machines take you then?
I’ll never forget an early scouting trip we took where I came upon an autobiography by Lauren Bacall. I opened its cover to find it signed by the legend. This being an early find, I grasped it tightly under my arm thinking surely someone would know the jig was up. This signed book for $3? The police will be coming any minute once they discover the truth. I coveted it like gold. Who on earth could toss this out? It turns out Bacall’s signature wasn’t worth what I suspected, and in time I learned the same about many surprising figures. Often the big names sign anything put in front of them, thus driving the price down. I didn’t care though. That Book is still on my shelf at home. Perhaps the best knowledge I’ve gained through this business is how to divide monetary value from personal. Price means nil when it strikes a chord and resonates in you. Monetary worth shouldn’t pertain. You have an old book club edition of a favorite classic? Its true value is in your head and heart. Books burrow in, stories leave a stain on our being like a finger print. No amount of money could erase that. This business has taught me a great deal about books and also beyond.
Two and a half years into the business we had 650 books listed and available for sale online. Comparatively this number in the book world is shamefully small. We hadn’t bought in bulk yet and hand picked our stock on small trips out then.
At current status, I am 11+ years into this with 7,600 books available with roughly a $160,000 inventory value. I continue the venture knowledgeable but always open for more. I’ve learned that the most you know is never enough. There is always more. This knowledge secures me in my scouting trips. Bring it on, I will pay attention. Never get cocky. You will be put in place with every misstep you take. (you will). I adore this business and all it’s flaws.
The thrill of finding an odd title or sure find continues. While the ever changing market and economy can bring frustration, the joy of the hunt is as much of a fun carnival ride as it was in the beginning. The constant shelves of book clubs and Reader’s Digest Condensed books don’t discourage this scout. That out of print collectible is in their somewhere. That signed, limited gently read copy, that discarded leather bound first edition with tipped-in plates and gilt edged papers, that copy inscribed with a personal poem on the endpaper from mother to son accompanying a dried rose laid in dated 1880. Used Books are treasures that surpass time and carry with them stories beyond the obvious print they hold.
As I sit in my office now and let my eye linger down the stack of spines before me to list, I think of the old beach trips I took with my folks as a child. It was my father who instilled in me the passion of the hunt, the venture of possible success. With him I knew to keep looking and have patience – that whatever I sought was out there somewhere; A priceless vision to have in life. The image of Mom that never leaves is her bending over to pick up those old, dull rocks and examine them with careful eyes. What a fool I took her for, passing up the obvious shiny gems!
But now, I play the fool.
It is in part, through both their teaching, I’m able to pick out the hidden, dusty books that catch my eye now - The books that might not stand out with a bright glossy cover and house-hold name. It is often these not so obvious gems that turn out to be the most valuable treasures. How Mom would have smiled at that. It is she who taught me to look a bit harder, past the immediate shine in order to really see. It is my wonderful beach partner titled ‘Mom’ I take with me on every book scouting trip. I did pay attention, Mom.
Somehow, through this Bibliophile life, I’ve re-discovered the serenity I held on those beach trips so many years ago. Whether its beach combing the Oregon Coast or knee deep in literature, maybe my serenity never went anywhere? Maybe it was always waiting for me to find it again? I’ve saved my shillings to find my way back to it. Its gifts are not taken for granted. I hold them as carefully as a fragile First Edition or broken sea shell easily passed up at the beach. It’s through Mom’s eyes I reach for both.
Thursday, July 14, 2011
The S T O R Y
Fine supple leather
That binds the page
Sprinkled with various
Tones of stage..
Step into the fire
Of a perilous hue
One starting the dance
Of a world brand new
Colorful characters
Villains and fools
Love sick peddlers
Bending the rules -
Play voyeur and friend
Or castrating spy
Flip each page like a day
With an eager set eye
Lose yourself for a minute
Or day
Or year...
And regret n o t the time
You have spent well here.
Tuesday, May 31, 2011
More
Bless'ed be the fortunate
Garnering grains of gold
That precious ilk
Sowing rows of silk
Into their daily fold -
I their woeful counterpart
Languor in night's sweaty balm
Squander a smile
For the waxy orchid
Above the water calm
Turpentine Spirits
Of blazing faith
Take me as kin to your door
So i can forget
All the time I have spent
Trying
Always
For
More.
Monday, May 23, 2011
One Sentence Stories 2...
I wonder, if we could time travel..how many of us would go back and educate the heart first?
I tried to talk to my younger me, but she wasn't having it.
1,2,3,4, rap lightly with caution at Love's door.
If you think too much about your happiness you can detour its course.
Listen, learn, think, A C T.
No, it isn't easy but that's what makes it great.
I'm so sorry for believing you were ever more than what you clearly defined.
I've dusted off your flaws and discover i still like you.
If I'm your soul achievement, i worry about your future.
A license is required to teach, drive, hunt and fish but not to parent.
Monday, May 9, 2011
Birdie
Saturday, May 7, 2011
Motherless Daughters
We are the motherless daughters
We’re scattered across the globe
We wear the cloak
Like an itchy coat
An attire we can't disrobe.
We are the motherless daughters
Traveling territory unknown
Forever searching within our loss
At another taste of home.
We are the motherless daughters
Missing more than words can say
The woman who gave us more than life
And took more than that away..
We are the motherless daughters
Left with memories, trinkets, advice,
Trying to make that be enough
Knowing it won’t suffice.
We are the motherless daughters
A tribe of another tongue
An anonymous bond throughout the land
The loss that binds you as one.
We are the motherless daughters
Owners of a tender heart
Filling our schedule on Mother’s day
Battling the urge to fall apart.
We are the motherless daughters
Lacking but lucky everyday
Hoping she'd be proud of the woman
The mirror puts on display.
We are the motherless daughters.

